There’s a myth we all believe very strongly and hardly ever act on it and that is we should not expect anything from anyone in life. But really, does having no expectations is the answer?
Before further discussing that point, first let us see what “Expectations” really are. Expectations are a strong belief that something will happen or be the case.
Expectations are one of our core survival instincts. You see, if we do not expect to wake up in the morning, we wouldn’t earn the money to buy the groceries that is running out. Or fix the sink, that is leaking out. Our brain predicts and analyses our every single move, based on our experiences and outcomes, when we eat a healthy meal, we expect to stay healthy, we want to go to a good college because we expect that it might lead us to a good life.
Expectations are not our enemy, because it resides deeply in us, and inevitable to avoid. It helps us to live, judge and carry on with our daily tasks. What we must be focusing on how to deal with our selves, when things don’t go the way we plan.
We must learn and let us feel the un-pleasant feeling of rejection and failure. Keeping in mind, that everything might not go our way, but be hopeful for a positive outcome. Because in the end, if we force our self to not expect anything than how is it much different than the expectation itself.
Zainab Muhammad Aslam | BSc Creative Computing